being the 'main-character' of your life made easy

| the deets on how you can truly prioritise yourself by someone who had to learn it the hard way

We all see ‘main character this’, ‘main character that’, all over the internet, and it seems like social media has made prioritising yourself, seem so superficial and the whole “non-chalant” agenda good heavens, I still don’t get how suppressing your emotions and not being your authentic self is deemed attractive or cool at all.

As a college student who was plagued by anxiety each waking day until my back to back sem-end exams were over, I think being the main character of your life should be more like a second nature or a lifestyle that you easily fit into and find comfort in rather than an ‘act’ that you put up with for the rest of your life in front of everyone.

And a recent epiphany made it all the way more simplified in my brain, that in order to truly feel like the main character of my life, all I need to do is be more present in
the moment, like really enjoying the present by doing things a bit more slowly, instead of rushing through all the chores and tasks.

Making my tea at a slower pace than my usual rushed demeanour which is often because I just want to ‘get done’ with the task, combing my hair gently, praying and wishing for a good day after waking up, cherishing the water sip-by-sip that quenches the body’s thirst after a night’s sleep, writing about my thoughts in my common-place notebook, truly remembering & honouring the intention behind each task and letting myself exist in the present moment, rather than oscillating between the past & the future in an unending loop.

Recently I’ve been reading the book called “What you are looking for is in the Library” by Michiko Aoyama and am already half-way through it. This book is so good, it has truly made me realise so many things about life, and one thing that resonated with me a lot is that, yk how most of us tend to stress out a lot about all the ambitions that we have or the tasks that we need to get done, and this book taught me that, I don’t need to be scared of those things I need to do inevitably, be it assignments, preparing for entrance exams, studying for my sem-end exams, internships, etc.

All I really need to do is focus on the now, this very moment, and just do what I can do right now without going completely insane, instead of focusing on 20 steps that I need to take in order to fulfil a goal, I just need to focus on the next step. Funny isn’t it? How the simplest answers are what we have always been looking for.

One last thing I’d like to talk about, is that, you know how when we don’t get all our assigned tasks done for the day, when our to-do list is just half-way ticked and in the other half, you can see the boxes being unchecked? Yes, now all I want you to do is, pat yourself on the back for even doing one task.

Because as a person who has always been so hard on herself for not checking off the tasks, I know the guilt & self-doubt that comes with it, but we forget that even doing half of those tasks in a day is a pretty significant thing, you chose to show up for yourself, you actually got some tasks done, you deserve the credit for it.

And some days you won’t get any tasks done, but really, all that matters is you are alive, and you have the next day, to try again. So try again, live another day with intention, and not in the so-called ‘main-character’ way, but in a real, raw, human way that makes YOU feel good, by being true to your own-self.

Thank you so much for reading, I hope this article could be of some help to people going through a similar phase like me, am so glad you’re here.

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